Friday, May 2, 2014

Top 10 Rules Families Should Live By

By Marcia Hall, as seen on Gonannies.com
Parents often institute rules for children out of a necessity to instill order and balance in the household; however, these rules are often not clearly defined and explained. Furthermore, they are usually for the children only. The healthiest rules you can give children are the ones that parents and caregivers should be following as well. By making a list of family rules you are setting a pleasant tone in the household and uniting the family.
  • Consider other people’s feelings
  • Solve problems with your words 
  • Find a kind way to say what you need to say 
  • Work to heal relationships that have been hurt 
  • Work hard and do your best
  • Be honest and tell the truth 
  • Show forgiveness and grace 
  • Treat your property with care 
  • Treat other people’s property with respect
  • Work together
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Wednesday, April 30, 2014

How to Help a Preschooler Who Chews on Everything

By Marcia Hall, as seen on Gonannies.com
Children, like adults, develop habits and quirks that are unique to them. These habits are often most recognized when the person or child feels stress or anxiety. While there are many ways to help relieve and reduce the stress a child feels, it is not really possible to eliminate it all together. Not all of these habits are harmful, but some of them can cause problems as your child grows. While chewing on things can be harmless in some instances, it can also cause many problems. When children chew on hair, clothes or objects, it can spread germs, ruin clothes and make other people uncomfortable. Here are a few things you can do to help find healthy outlets for your child when he chews.
  • Recognize and educate those around your child that the chewing is simply his way of trying to relax in a situation where he is uncomfortable. 
  • Avoid making the child feel bad about his habit. 
  • Help him by finding an object that he can chew on that will not hurt his teeth or ruin clothes. 
  • Be sure to make time daily with your child where he is free to share some of the emotions he is feeling. 

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Monday, April 28, 2014

Minimizing Mommy Guilt

By Marcia Brown, seen on Gonannies.com
Take a look at any parenting magazine and you will see idealistic pictures of the “perfect” family. There are literally thousands of books and websites dedicated to helping parents with everything from arts and crafts to finding the right disciplinary style. You probably even know a mom or two that seem to always have it all together. With all these examples of perfection, it’s easy to find yourself suffering from a bad case of “mommy guilt”. Here are a few ways to minimize that.
  • Recognize that no one is THAT perfect. 
  • Accept your failings.
  • Work on your strengths. 
  • Find ways to fill in the holes.
  • Make small changes.
  • Forgive yourself. 
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Monday, March 3, 2014

My Latest Attempt at Sanity

I am a mom of 2 children (2 and 5) and care for another 1 year old in my home several days a week.  We recently spoiled our children with their birthdays and before that, Christmas. By we I mean my family and friends. OK my husband and I did too. I thought we had too many toys before the holidays and now the amount we have accumulated is simply out of control.  I regularly go though them and get rid of toys that the kids don't really play with or are broken. When I look at what is left, I remember buying it for them and just knowing they would love it. Or watching them open the toys as a gift from someone else and I simply don't want to give it away any more than my kids do.  I know eventually we will be free of all these toys with a billions of pieces or sounds that could drive even the sanest person to run screaming from the house. I know some day I will be able to walk though my living room with out feeling like I am walking though a landmine. When that day comes I am told I will miss all the toys but for today, I have resolved that it is where we are in life. 

If there is one thing I am good at, it is organizing.  Over the years I have made many attempts to organize the toys spending hours on the floor with a pile of toys.  2 days later, the toys are all messed up again.  Though my kids have a firm grasp on how to clean up, they struggle with putting a toy away before taking another one out.  It does not help that often they will take pieces of several different toys to create a whole new toy.  This is something that I find adorable and wish to encourage so most days we let the living room go until just before bed time.  Unfortunately with the amount of toys we now possess, this chore takes the whole family too long.  

In my endeavor to find and organizational plan that will actually work with my kids and our life, I have come up with this.  And I don't mind sounding like an organizational geek when I say I am pretty darn excited about it.  



As you can see from the picture I purchased about 20 simple bankers boxes for about $25, not bad.  I have organized the toys (yet again) into collections.  There are horses, Lego friends, zoobles, etc for my older daughter and 6 different "Toddler Boxes" for the 2 little ones in the house.  At the start of each week, we put away the toys we have been playing with for the week in the bankers boxes and then the girls get to pick out a new box for the week.  What is in that box remains their focus for the week.  We also have some craft boxes with paint, play-doe, etc that we can choose to play with but they all get put away before taking out the next box.  

Of course there are toys that don't go in the boxes that the girls play with constantly.  In our house stuffed animals are like best friends so those stay out as well as simple art supplies like paper and markers.  These are used pretty much daily.  

As you can see from the picture, they are not the prettiest boxes and I am sure I could make them more appealing to look at but for us they work.  I am able to stay sane in my own house and though it is far from magazine ready, I think it balances our style with our crazy life quite well.

Thanks for taking a look.



Tuesday, May 14, 2013

4 signs of Kindergarten Readiness


By Marcia Hall - gonannies.com nanny expert

Children have their own time table for development.   One child may be speaking in full and fluid sentences before she is 2 while another child does not have much to say until after three.  There is nothing wrong with either of those situations.  However parents want their child to be ready for the challenges that school will bring.  There may be a number of standards your desired school requires each child entering Kindergarten but there are other criteria that are equally important for your child to achieve before she hits this big milestone.
  • Socially
  • Physically
  • Emotionally
  • Mentally 
Please visit gonannies.com to view the ways in which you will know if your child is ready.  

Many parents today push their children to be ready for Kindergarten.  They often think that a child should be reading, writing and doing math even before they enter the building.  However, Kindergarten is the place your child will learn to do those things.  It is more important to give your child the foundations of achievement in the form of social, physical, emotional and mental readiness.  With these foundations your child will be on the right track to succeed in school for years to come.  

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Thursday, May 9, 2013

8 ways to help a new nursing mom return to work


By Marcia Hall
With Yael Stein of La Leche League, Milwaukee, Wisconsin


It is very difficult for a new mom to return to work when her maternally leave is over.  There is a great mix of emotions.  On one hand she might be enthusiastic about returning to a job that she loves and excited to be able to get out of the house again.  On the other hand she almost always feels guilty about leaving her child with anyone even if it is someone that she trusts emphatically. 

There is a maternal instinct that kicks in and cannot be denied.  This guilt is compounded when she is making choices about feeding and breast milk.  It can often be very difficult for a mom to continue to offer breast milk when she goes back to work.  Caregivers that are helping to support her can make it easier for mom to make the choice to continue to nurse and offer breast milk to her baby. 

  • Learn the benefits of extended use of breast milk
  • Research the storage guidelines of breast milk.  
  • Suggest that the hours of work are extended a bit.
  • Offer to bring baby to workplace during the day for feeding. 
  • Avoid feeding the baby within two hours of mom returning home 
  • Find alternative ways to soothe baby without bottle.  
  • Ask the mom if you can wear the baby in a sling or a wrap. 
  • Be flexible with the introduction of mom’s working schedule 
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Tuesday, May 7, 2013

4 reasons to let your toddler help around the house


By Marcia Hall - gonannies.com nanny expert

You child will naturally want to help you do things around the house.  At times this insistence can be seen like a nuisance because it is generally easier and quicker to do the job by yourself than to have little and clumsy hands help.  However, there are a lot of reasons we should encourage them to help us. 
  • It builds independence
  • It creates connection
  • It develops a great work ethic
  • It develops positive self-esteem

To read the full article please visit gonannies.com