Monday, June 9, 2014

4 Ways to Help Children Grieve

By Marcia Hall, as seen on

Sorrow is a normal emotion for any child to experience. Often when loss occurs in a child’s life, like the death of a loved one or pet, parents and caregivers avoid the subject or try to make light of the topic. Sometimes they will even give the child gifts or do something to distract him from the emotion he is showing. While this can make the adults caring for the child feel better, it does not truly help the child in any way. Your child needs to be allowed to move though the grieving process. When he is younger it is your job to guide him along this path. Below are four ways you can help your child move through the stages of grief and come out on the other side healthier, happier and ready for the many sad events life has to hold. 

  • Show emotion yourself. 
  • Avoid distracting him from his emotion.
  • Ask him how he feels; don’t tell him how to feel. 
  • Be with him and be understanding through all stages of grief. 
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Friday, May 16, 2014

How to Handle it when Your Child Won’t Sleep in the Dark

Every child has their own unique sensitivities. One child may act shy when introduced to new people, while another child may dislike getting dirty. If your child is sensitive to darkness, you can rest assured that she is not alone.
Sensitivity to darkness is often thought of as a fear, and can easily become a fear when children’s emotions about being in and sleeping in the dark are not taken seriously. This issue can stem from many things. Educators commonly note that children who have an apprehension of the dark tend to be very creative, free thinkers. It may be that this creative thinking starts working overtime when darkness hits, causing the child to imagine the worst. There are a few things you can do to help calm the tension.
  • Accept it. 
  • Validate her concern. 
  • Reassure her. 
  • Keep the room clutter free. 
  • Use light.
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Wednesday, May 14, 2014

Solutions to Typical Issues Moms Have While Potty Training

Potty training is easily one of the most talked about events in the life of a toddler, yet it is often cause for great concern and stress among parents. Despite the hundreds of books and videos telling you the “simple” way to potty train your child, the majority of children learn to use the toilet without much difficulty when they are truly ready to train. However, some parents and toddlers find overcoming this milestone to be quite challenging. If you find yourself or your child in that group, here are a few typical issues that you might be facing and some workable solutions to them.
  • My child does not seem to care if his diaper or pants are wet.
  • My child is afraid to use the toilet especially outside of the home. 
  • My child just can’t make it all the way to the potty. 
  • My child just won’t poop on the toilet. 
  • My child is completely potty trained while he is awake, but still pees while he is asleep.
  • My child seems to have to go every 20 minutes when we are out or in the car. 
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Monday, May 12, 2014

3 Effective Uses of an Allowance

For many families, using an allowance to encourage children to do chores is an effective means of both teaching responsibility and money management. For other families, linking chores to an allowance means that the children only learn to help out around the house in exchange for payment. It is important for parents to sit down and talk about what they hope their children learn from the experience of getting an allowance. Here are three common methods you may wish to consider implementing:
  • The “You’re Part of the Family” Strategy
  • The “Must Work for Your Pay” Technique
  • The “Request as Needed” Method
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Friday, May 9, 2014

6 Steps to Fostering Remorse in Children

Arguments and fights on the playground or with other children are an inevitable part of childhood, however, that doesn't make it any easier for parents or caregivers to know how to respond when their child comes home from school with stories of disagreements. It can be even harder when you find out that your child is often the one doing some of the hurting. Here are some steps you can use to help when that happens.

  • Remember that children are frequently testing what effect their words have on others during the school years. 
  • Avoid accusing your child of being mean. 
  • Ask questions instead of making statements. When discussing the situation with your child, it is best to not assume anything or make statements about those assumptions. 
  • Encourage the child to mend the relationship instead of simply telling the person she’s sorry. 
  • Don’t require your child to make the relationship better or punish her if she does not do it. 
  • Encourage your child when she makes an effort to mend the relationship, even if it is not accepted by the other child immediately. 
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Wednesday, May 7, 2014

What To Do When You Think There Is More To The Story

By Marcia Hall, as seen on
Understanding why children react the way they do can be as problematic as understanding the mysteries of the universe at times. One moment your child is engrossed and pleased with a particular activity, the next she hates it and acts like she’s being tortured the minute you try to get her involved.
Children change their minds at the drop of a hat and have meltdowns due to a number of different reasons. However, if your child has suddenly stopped liking something that she previously has loved, there might be more to the story. Getting to the bottom of it might take time and there will likely be a lot of frustration. Here are the “Do’s and Don’ts” of helping your child process her feelings and understanding her behavior.
Don’t assume you know the story. There is always more to the story than it seems on the surface. It is very easy to look at a situation your child is faced with and come to your own conclusion. Try to control your urge to make a judgment call until you hear the entire story.
Don’t accuse or blame your child of doing something wrong.
Don’t assume your child is innocent in the situation. 
Don’t step in to “fix” the problem. 
Do allow the child to be upset.
Do really listen. 
Do ask questions in a non-judgmental way. 
Do help her resolve the problem with as little interference as possible. 
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Monday, May 5, 2014

6 Embarrassing Topics Your Child Might Bring up in Public and What to Do When He Does

By Marcia Hall, as seen on
Kids say the darnedest things, right? From mispronouncing words to commenting on a taboo topic in a crowded room, kids have a knack for embarrassing the grownups around them. While older kids sometimes do this for attention or simply to test the waters, one thing is universally true: Your response to their comments can either cause emotional pain or it can help them learn. With that said, here are six of the most common embarrassing topics of conversation and some suggestions on how to manage them.
  • Asking a person who has a round belly if she is pregnant. 
  • Comparing breast sizes. 
  • Needing help in the bathroom.
  • Discussing the difference in skin color.  
  • Discussing ladies “time of the month.” 
  • Mispronouncing one word for the other, like penis for peanut. 
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