Many parents can get on board when I say you should not require your four year old to say please and thank you. However, I strongly believe that it should continue with older children as well. If your twelve year old child needs or wants something from you and asks you without using polite words or tone, most parents would naturally react with frustration telling him that he has to change his attitude and words.
As parents and caregivers it is analogizing to watch your child show little gratitude to yourself and those around him. Check back next week and I will talk about how peer pressure affects your child's lack of civility.