Children’s fears are real. They may seem silly to us big people but these fears are often all children can think about. When children express a fear to a parent, most of us would try to explain that there is nothing to be scared of, ignore the fear or make them go in the room to show him there is nothing to be afraid of.
Instead I suggest you sit your child down and validate his fear. He cannot be “talked” out of it. What you can do is teach your child that you will not ignore the fear but will do your best to understand it. “I see that you are afraid of going in that room. I know the room is dark and there are lots of boxes in it. It can seem scary to go in places that you are not used to. Maybe you are afraid something is in there. What do you think might happen if you go in there?” Try to not put ideas in his head that were not there, but think about what the room might look like from your child’s perspective. Are there bugs in there, did he watch something on TV that might have contributed to the fear?
Though telling your child there is nothing to be afraid of might come from a place of love, he might understand it to mean there is something wrong with him. Be patient and understanding. Let your child know that you will go with him into the place when HE is ready.
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